To make a commitment is to promise, pledge or vow. It is to be obligated, bound, dedicated or to or show loyalty and devotion to. Commitment is to have a duty toward and to be responsible and accountable for something or someone.

Commitment in a relationship means that you have pledged a promise and will be faithful to your promise to accept the responsibility to take good care of your partner's heart and feelings. Commitment is a conscious sense of duty to do so.

Commitment is what I would consider the most important part of any relationship. Without committed behaviors from one partner, the other partner will have little reason to trust in them because commitment and trust go hand-in-hand.

"How do you know when there is commitment in your relationship? The only way one knows if there is commitment from their partner is if they are displaying committed behaviors. Committed behaviors are behaviors that will neither betray the trust nor cause suspicion in their partner.

What are some non-committed behaviors? Flirting; this includes spending time in chat rooms and forums to meet others of the opposite sex, going places where your partner hasn't been invited, keeping secrets, not wanting to spend time together, lying to your partner about where you've been, not making sure old relationship ties have been permanently severed. This includes visiting with or spending time with old relationship partners. One of the worst non-committed behaviors is threatening to leave the relationship or breaking up whenever there are problems. And of course, there's the king of them all and that ultimate deal-breaker, cheating on your partner.

There are instances where the partner may not be aware that their behaviors fall into the above category. However, once it is pointed out to them why such behaviors are causing problems, then the partner should stop engaging in them and the issues worked out.

I know of one couple that met in an online chatroom. They played, flirted and after a while, the man left his current relationship and moved in with the woman. The woman expected her new partner to stop visiting the chatrooms. She felt that it would be understood that this was going to be an unacceptable behavior for him to engage in.

The man didn't see anything wrong with visiting the chatrooms because it had been his form of entertainment for a long time. Meanwhile, the woman was feeling that she couldn't trust her new partner, thinking that he was going to meet someone else in the chatroom and leave her. I wonder if that's what his previous partner felt? Each had a valid point.

If this new arrangement was going to work out, something had to change. In a committed relationship, partners will take each other's feelings into account and work together to find a win, win solution.

If you read the article on compatibility, you can see how being in a committed relationship will help you work out your compatibility issues.

Conclusion:
Commitment has a two-fold value. First, it will keep you in the relationship while you work out any and all of your relationship problems and Second, it will give you that deep-down warm filling that you have a partner that will take care of your heart and that you can trust.

I hope you can see why commitment is at the top of the list.

 

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